WHY GOD ALLOW POVERTY?

          1 Chronicles 4 vs. 9&10. And Jabez was more honourable than his brethren: and his mother called his name Jabez, saying, because I bare him with sorrow. 10. And Jabez called on the God of Israel, saying, Oh that thou wouldest bless me indeed, and enlarge my coast, and that thine hand might be with me, and that thou wouldest keep me from evil, that it may not grieve me! And God granted him that which he requested.

 Consider these bible verses:

Proverb 22 vs 2: The rich and poor meet together: the LORD is the maker of them all.

Proverb 22 vs 7: The rich and poor meet together: the LORD is the maker of them all.

      To be in poverty is one's cause, not your parent or God. You can turn things around for better only if you strive for it to be and if you summon God

A preacher and an atheistic barber were once walking through the city slums.

Said the barber to the preacher: "This is why I cannot believe in a God of love. If God was as kind and loving as you say, He would not permit all this poverty, disease, and squalor. He would not allow these poor bums to be addicted to dope and other character-destroying habits. No, I cannot believe in a God who permits these things."

The minister was silent until they met a man who was especially unkept and filthy. His hair was hanging down his neck and he had a half-inch of stubble on his face.

Said the minister: "You can't be a very good barber or you wouldn't permit a man like that to continue living in this neighborhood without a haircut and a shave."

Indignantly the barber answered: "Why blame me for that man's condition? I can't help it that he is like that. He has never come in my shop. I could fix him up and make him look like a gentleman!"

Giving the barber a penetrating look, the minister said: "Then don't blame God for allowing the people to continue in their evil ways, when He is constantly inviting them to come and be saved."

Truth be told, God can't change you unless you step forward and ask God to help you change for the better.

Prayer of Jabez: Why is it important?
The Prayer of Jabez reveals that Jabez understands what many people do not -- there is only one God and He should be the center of our work God wants to bless every life. But, we must first make the choice to invite God into our life and ask for His blessings. Jabez wants to succeed and increase his sphere of influence for God. The specific sphere of influence is not important. What is important is that when we want to reach for goals and accomplishments that we have God on our side. Proverbs 16:3 says, "Commit thy works unto the LORD, and thy thoughts shall be established." It is critical to understand and practice this in a close relationship with God. Further, it is equally important to stay close to God and rely on His continued support and guidance throughout life. Jabez clearly knows and prays specifically to the One who can protect him from evil and pain -- God. At the end of the verse it is clear that God approved of this faithful prayer by granting it. It is also important to see that Jabez was passionate in his plea to God: "He cried out to the God of Israel." God wants to hear that we need Him through passionate prayer.

Prayer of Jabez: What does it mean to you?
The Prayer of Jabez reminds us that everybody struggles with choosing to rely on himself or God. Whether you are a focused Christian
or just searching to find out more about God, life is a growing process. However, it is very clear in reviewing the Prayer of Jabez, as well as the rest of the Bible, that God is faithful in caring for those who seek Him. Jabez sets a great example of how God wants everyone to come to Him through constant and passionate prayer. If you are looking to start a relationship with God or improve your existing relationship with Him, start with prayer. God answers prayers when you trust Him (1 Chronicles 5:20). Prayers to God also please Him (Proverbs 15:8). We can all learn from Jabez and faithfully pray to God always in everything that we do.

NOTE THESE TWO POINTS:

1. Jabez was born in sorrow, but he cried to God and God changed his history.
2. As long as you know God and cry to him, the story of your life will surely change for good.

BECOMING LIKE A CHILD. (The parable of Jesus)

 “Verily I say unto you, whosoever shall not receive the kingdom of God as a little child shall in no wise enter therein. (Luke 18 vs 17. KJV).                                                                                                                                                                                                 
                                                                                                                                                               

It is obvious that the Disciple that asked Jesus the question “Who is the greatest in Heaven” (Matthew 18 vs 1) would be surprised to the answer Jesus gave them. How come Jesus has to liken the kingdom of God to a child with everything that is in this world? “…And said, verily I say unto you, except ye be converted, and become as little children, ye shall not enter into the kingdom of God” (Matthew 18 vs 3kjv).  Jesus expressed himself very distinctly in this chapter of the Bible (verses 2-6 )  and it just us that need to examine the answer very well and liken the character of a typical child to the one who is preparing to enter the kingdom of God.

My thorough meditation on the subject dropped somethings in my heart concerning a child which I illustrated thus: Firstly I defined what each letter in the spelling of CHILD could mean as likened to the kingdom of God.

C-CAREFREE.

One of the characters of a child is being carefree. They are not afraid of anything; they don’t monitor themselves or take care at all. You will agree with me that it is the parent that watches over the children all the times. They don’t care about anything; whether what to eat, what to wear or any challenges of life and this is a character that is important in the life of a Christian. God really want you to cast your entire burden on him. In Matthew 6 vs 25, Jesus taught us about the love of the father towards us to take care of us in all ways. “..Therefore I say unto you, take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat, or what ye shall drink; nor yet for your body, what ye shall put on. Is not the life more than meat, and the body than raiment?” (Matthew 6 vs 25). A child always has confidence that his parent is there for him and need not worry about a thing. He comes to you when he needs anything and believes in whatever answer you give to him. He really believe that you have heard him the very first time he has spoken to you and this is how God want us to relate with Him; being like a child. Reading through the whole Matthew chapter 6 really explains what Jesus meant by saying we must become like a child to even entering the kingdom of God and He actually gave us this assurance in Mark 11 vs 24….Therefore I say unto you, what things so ever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them.

                You can’t take care of yourself, you can’t protect yourself, and even Jesus asked “which of you by taking thought can add one cubit unto his stature” (Matthew 6 vs 27).  But it is unfortunate today that we do live our lives as if we are the one protecting and providing for ourselves. You can try to do one exercise, Try to write down all your expenses for a month including every penny you spend and then compare to your income for that month. You will then find out that God is indeed Jehovah Jireh.

H-HUMILITY

This is one key character of heaven desired Christian. Being humble means a lot to man not even talking about God.  You can’t like a person that is proud that’s why book of proverb 21:4 says “An high look, and a proud heart, and the plowing of the wicked, is sin”.  But better it is to be an humble spirit with the lowly, than to divide the spoil with the proud. (Proverb 16:19). Jesus said “Blessed are the meek: they shall inherit the earth (Matthew 5 vs 5). Children always obey their parent and elderly ones, they never think of being proud because they know they are children and nothing they can do. Same thing God requires from us to submit unto Him totally, not struggling with Him in making decision or in given us direction. Check your life; are you living like a child?

 I-INQUISITIVE.

Another character of a child Jesus wants us to emulate is being inquisitive. A child can ask about anything, anytime and any day. They never tired of asking, anything they don’t know how to do; they ask. If they see you doing anything or things are changing around them, they ask. God want us to ask Him anything, anytime, any day. He wants us to inquire from Him anything. He wants us to ask Him for directions and instructions before laying hands on anything. He wants us to see his word to us as the lamp to our feet and light unto our ways. He said “Call unto me, and I will answer thee, and shew thee great and mighty things, which thou knowest not” (Jeremiah 33 vs 3kjv).  The promise of God to us is to hear us and give us more than we've even asked. Our problem is just to call upon him, casting upon him all our heavy burden, Forgetting He’s the only that can lighten up our burden. He’s the only wise one, we should forget about relying upon our earthly wisdom to do things again. When Adam and Eve Fell into temptation, they shew leaves to cover themselves but God shew them animal skin to cover them up. That is a typical example of God’s wisdom and Human wisdom. Live your life like that of a child, being Inquisitive. Inquire from the Lord before taking any step.

L- LEARNING

Children always want to learn about the past, the present and the future. They even will bring their school assignment to you for help; they come to you to tell them stories. God also want us to learn from Him every day. He instructed us to meditate on His word day and night (Joshua 1 vs 8). He want his words to dwell in us richly in wisdom; teaching and admonishing (Colossians 3 vs 16). He wants us to desire the sincere milk of the word like new born baby that we may grow. (1 Peter 2 vs 2).

            Jesus clearly instructed us to learn of him “…Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your soul” (Matthew 11 vs 19). We must always find time to meditate on His word, allowing Holy Spirit to interpret the word into our heart as a child always does to learn. This is a way we can learn the kingdom rules and enter therein.

D-DEPENDENT

Children always depend on their parent; they go up to them always for their needs. God still desire the same from us, He want us to always looking unto Him, the author and the finisher of our faith (Hebrew 12 vs 2). David said “My soul, wait thou only upon God; for my expectation is from Him” (Psalms 62 vs 5). He is saying that: God, I only depend on you for everything and I don’t have back-up.  “As the Hart panteth after the water brooks, so panteth my soul after thee. O God. My soul thirsteth for God, for the living God: when shall I come and appear before God?” (Psalms 42 vs 2-3).  This should be our desire to depend on him for anything. David advise us “Trust in Him at all times; ye people, pour out your heart before Him: God is a refuge for us” (Psalms 62 vs 8).

            In conclusion, the reasons to liken the kingdom of God unto a child are not far-fetched. He just wants us to inculcate the features of a child in our day to day life and to totally depend on Him, not living a careless life but a carefree life. You can’t be too much careful because you can’t take care of yourself, commit your ways unto the Lord, believe in Him and He shall bring it to pass.

            

    …..Trust in the Lord with all your heart; and lean not unto thine understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. (Proverbs 3 vs 5-6).

Shalom.     

THE PURPOSE DRIVEN MARRIAGE

Genesis 2:22 (kjv): And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.

The common mathematics rule we know is 1+1=2 but in marriage they always say 1+1=1. Hmmm… well but I thought of it that the same basic calculation steps apply to both; in mathematics, 1 (one) means a whole number; a number that can stand alone, a number without a fraction but if just 0.1 (1/10) is deducted/subtracted/taken out of 1, then the whole number becomes fraction or decimal (0.9 or 9/10). The fraction can only become whole again if and only if the exact fraction or decimal taken out of it is added again, and if by chance say 0.11 is now added to 0.9 which now equals 1.01; and not a whole number again.

Now, in the beginning God created Adam as a whole being, endowed with all 'lifes' he needed to succeed in the task assigned to him. He was doing great but something is still missing; an HELPER. From the creation, Adam seems perfect and complete; a whole being in the eyes of the creator but later a rib has to be taken out of him to form another human. I called that a LIFE being taken out of Adam re-branded, re-molded, revitalized, reshaped, restructured, reorganized and revamped to become a new being now serving as an helper to him. So, out of many ‘lifes' Adam has a part was taken out of him reinforced into another being to serve as helper.

 Now to my analogy, Adam was a whole being before but now became a fraction after a part has been taken out of him and Eve on the other hand also a fraction of Adam. I can now rephrased the statement as HALF + HALF = ONE  (marriage mathematics) or in other words, HALF LIFE + HALF LIFE = ONE LIFE. A man is a half and so a woman; two of them coming together and becoming a whole, man cannot survive alone and so also the woman. They all depend on each other.

What actually brought about this analysis is just about all these marriage flaws, marriage issues, marriage breakages, marriage unrests, marriage whatever that is rampant these days. To me, a man should accept that a rib; which means a life (or lives) is missing in him and there is someone out there that carries that life around and also that he needs to look out there and find the carrier of his life for him to be completed. No wonder the Bibles says whoever finds a wife found a good thing and obtained favour from the Lord. A man that recognizes that he's clueless about managing his finances; spends anyhow, lavish and blows extravagantly but now finds a woman that manages this 'life' for him will always respect that woman. Such a man will never say to her..." What are you good at shef, you're just a useless being, i don't even know why I marry you.....”.  And likewise, a woman that knows that the man is just her all in all, carries her burden all the time , always there for her, always provide the shoulder to lean on and always brace her up whenever she falls or fails will never say the same to her husband. Both of them will have mutual respect for each other, they will always care for that special 'life' because they know if anything ever happen to that HALF, then ;they can never be a WHOLE again.

In the nutshell, married couples out there learn from this simple analogy of mine: HALF (MAN) + HALF (WOMAN) = ONE (WHOLE LIFE) and if you should ever maltreat your half, then you can never enjoy that 'life' until you become a WHOLE again. Couples should always identify that life that is missing in him or her and see to it that the space is filled perfectly and then cherish and care for that life God has reinforced and sandwiched into their partner.

 To the youth, ensure you identify that life and make it the top search point as you're looking around for that perfect match; other points are always a distraction. 

To me, hmmmm.....I've taken my time to identify that missing life in me, now patiently searched and looked with the grace of God for that perfect sincere Sister that actually filled that block making it a WHOLE life again.

                                              Shalom.

PURPOSE DRIVEN WOMAN

 

God doesn’t command a wife to feel respectful toward her husband. She is to be

 respectful. Her responsibility is to obey God, not her feelings.

A man needs his wife's respect and admiration. He thrives and grows toward 

godliness when this need is fulfilled. Maybe that’s why the Apostle Paul says, 

“The wife must respect her husband.” 

(Ephesians 5:33). Easier said than done, especially in the heat of an argument. 

So what are some ways you can obey this command, and show respect for your 

husband?

1. PRAY FOR HIM

Something happens to us when we pray for people. Our hearts soften, our compassion

and empathy increase, and we gain spiritual insight as to what the other person is 

going through. So pray for your husband. Ask God to give him wisdom, protection, 

guidance, knowledge, spiritual maturity, success, purity, and courage. Thank the Lord

for how He has worked within your family, and for giving you this man. Pray for your

attitude to change; rather than looking for your husband’s flaws, ask God to reveal 

his strengths. And then seek God’s answers to your prayers. Because He is listening!

2. MAKE A LIST OF YOUR HUSBAND’S GOOD QUALITIES

When routine takes over, we need to remind ourselves every once in a while why we

fell in love in the first place. Reflect on your spouse’s character. What are his 

strengths? What do you admire about him? Review and add to your list regularly.

3. TELL YOUR HUSBAND WHAT YOU APPRECIATE ABOUT HIM

It’s really nice to hear the words “thank you”; it’s even better hearing a number of

specific things someone admires about you. By telling your husband what you 

appreciate about him, you communicate your love and respect and gratitude.

4. LISTEN TO HIM

When your husband wants to talk, give him your full attention. Put down the phone 

or computer or remote, and listen. It’s also an important thing to remember when 

you’re the one who seeks him out! When you ask him a question, wait for his answer. 

And when he does talk, try not to shut him down right away. Actually listen to what 

he’s saying, and take his opinion into account.

5. DON’T PUT DOWN YOUR HUSBAND IN FRONT OF OTHERS

Especially your children. You and your husband are on the same team. You’re 

partners, supporters, and cheerleaders for each other. So when you are constantly

criticizing him, it’s like you’ve abandoned his team. This doesn’t mean you can’t be 

open with your friends about your relationship; sometimes you really need to talk 

about what is going on, and an outside perspective can help. But if you find yourself 

endlessly putting him down: stop. This isn’t helpful to anyone. Instead, try and find 

something good to say about him, and even brag about him a little.

6. PUT A POSITIVE SPIN ON THINGS THAT ANNOY YOU

If you find it boring when he spends time telling you about his bad day, remember 

that at least he is talking to you, spending time with you, sharing his concerns with 

you, bringing you into his confidence, and giving you the chance to be supportive.

7. MAKE LOVE

By responding to his advances — and initiating advances of your own — you are 

communicating your loyalty to him, your selfless love for him, and your attraction to 

him. Plus, it’s pretty fun, too.

8. INVOLVE HIM IN YOUR LIFE

When you’ve been married for a while, it’s easy to go through life on autopilot. 

You each have your own routines, your own hobbies, your own friends. So make it a 

habit to include him in your activities, to talk about what is going on, to enjoy his 

company amidst the mundane. By including him in your everyday, you show him 

how much his presence brightens your life.

9. TALK IN “I” STATEMENTS

If you have a problem about a decision your husband has 

made, or if you’re in the midst of an argument, accepting 

responsibility for your feelings is crucial to communicating

 effectively. This invites conversation rather than defense. 

Say: “I’m confused about [ ]. Can you explain it to me?” 

Or, “Can we talk about [ ]? I feel uncomfortable about [ ].” 

Don’t say: “Why would you ever do it that way?” Or ask

 “Why?” in a way that implies he’s foolish.

10. BELIEVE YOUR HUSBAND HAS GOOD INTENTIONS

If you find yourself thinking negative thoughts about your husband, stop and choose 

to think of something else, especially things from your positive quality list. As 

Emerson Eggerichs says in his book Love and Respect, a key to making your 

relationship feel safe and secure is to believe your spouse has good intentions. 

Even when your partner messes up, you can still believe he didn’t mean to.

Remember, God is working on you and your husband. You can both learn from your 

failures as well as your successes. Give God the freedom to teach your husband 

through failure. In the same way, allow God to teach you to trust Him through 

your — and your husband’s — failure.

This article is directed towards women in relationships free from emotional, 

physical, verbal, and sexual abuse. If you are in an abusive relationship, fill out the 

form in the Connect tab below. We’re here to listen.

     

Finally, I want the women that respects their husband signifies here in the 

comment box. 

Thanks.

PURPOSE DRIVEN MUSIC MINISTER

 ACCEPTABLE LIFESTYLE OF A GOSPEL MUSIC MINISTER.

Who is a Gospel Music minister?

There is a difference between a WORKER and a MINISTER. A worker renders service (acceptable or not) while a minister address needs. In the same manner, there are differences between a CHORISTER and a GOSPEL MUSIC MINISTER.

A Chorister sings while a Gospel Music Minister addresses needs. A Chorister is a member of the choir while a gospel music Minister is one who sees his responsibilities in the choir and the church at large as his or her calling.

A Chorister may join the choir for the reasons such as:

§  I like their uniform, I will join them

§  Choristers have a special place in the church where they seat, they are popular, so I will join them

§  My friend, sister or brother is in the choir, I too will join them.

A Gospel Music Minister joins the choir for reasons such as:

 I have discovered what God has deposited in me and I can use it to serve Him in the choir

§    I love to worship God and joining the choir will provide the platform and help me to grow

§   I see myself as an instrument of worship in the hand of God.

When we gather in a church service, every one of us has needs that we want God to meet. Whatever may be our needs, when the presence of God manifest, our needs are met (2 Cor 3:17).

Because God inhabits the praises of his people, it takes a worshiper to invite the presence of God. That is who a Gospel Minister is.

A Gospel Minister is a conductor of grace, divine presence, God’s glory, power and anointing. May you become one of such in Jesus name.

A Gospel Minister is a creator of “Atmosphere for Miracles”. Acts 16 vs 25

   

      ACCEPTABLE LIFESTYLES/ATTRIBUTES OF A GOSPEL MINISTER

1.      Relationship with God: He/she must be born again and have a right standing with God. He/she must love righteousness and hate iniquity. Hebrews 1:9, Psalms 45:7, 2Chronicles 16:9

2.      A burning desire to always know more of God, must be teachable and growth minded. Psalms 42:1-2, Gal 4:1-2. God was the first Choir Master and He taught Moses a song which he was to teach the Israelites. Deut. 31:19.

3.      Total Dependence on God and not his/her gift and talents. John 15:5

4.      Praise must be part of his/her public and private life. That’s what we are created to do. Isaiah 43:21

5.      Must be prayerful: 1 Thess 5:17. Prayer helps to sharpen our gifts. He/she must be praying for the church, his/her department as well as praying for himself/herself especially against the spirit of pride.  (Remember Satan was the choir director in heaven but pride was his greatest undoing)

6.      Evangelism- He must have genuine love and care for lost souls. Ezekiel 3:18

7.      A bridled tongue: The mouth you are using to praise God should not be available for gossip, backbiting, slander,cursing, lying etc. 1 Peter 3:10, James 1:26

8.      Must avoid distractions: There is no reason to follow those whose destination is different from yours. Must desist from envy, jealousy and unhealthy competition. James 1:27

9.     Moderacy and Modesty in dressing: He/she must be conscious of the fact that there is a thin line between fashion and worldliness. You are not a model neither are you a fashionista. Dress in a way that glorifies God. Phil 4:5

1.    Must be an agent of unity in the choir or any other department he/she belongs -Psalms 133:1-3.

THE 5 LOVE LANGUAGES

                       LOVE LANGUAGES

Every individual has a love language specific to them. In a relationship, it is imperative to understand your lover’s love language to create a smooth atmosphere in your relationship. Gary Chapman, the popular author of the popular book “The Five Love Languages- The Secret to Love that last”, he exposed the details of the languages and gave their importance.

Here are the 5 love languages:

Words of Affirmation:
This is about using words to affirm other people. Some people actually love the fact when you say “you look today, Beatrice”, “your hair is so lovely”, “you are indeed a handsome man”, etc. These words of affirmation boost their self-confidence and/or ego which would reflect in their response to you.

Acts of Service:
For some people, action speaks louder than words. They are more interested in you being hands-on for them, being physically supportive, engaging in some chores, etc. To them, words don’t really mean much until you back it up with actions. They appreciate your presence more when you give them a helping hand in assignments or home chores while some they develop interest when they see you working or helping the needy or less privileged ones.

Receiving Gifts:
For these people, they are more concerned with receiving gifts to show they are loved or appreciated. Receiving gifts do not necessarily mean they are vain or covetous. Even as little as a box of chocolate is right for them.

Quality Time:
This language says some people just want your undivided attention. While it may sound demanding, these people who have this love language cherish even uninterrupted five minutes is spent with them. This means, you are either not engaged in social media, work or television. Just them!

Physical Touch:
To this person, nothing matters more than an appropriate deeply felt touch. Once you can touch a nerve affectionately, not necessarily for sexual purposes, you have made the person happy. This could come in form of a hug, a pat on the cheek or shoulder, a nudge on the elbow or a handshake, etc.

Everyone has these love languages inherent in them. While some don’t know, some do and are able to communicate same to their partners or spouses. For those who don’t know their specific language, one has to be observant to understand what brings them joy when an act of love is shown. 

LEADER'S TRAITS...

 

LEADERS GIVE RESULTS AND NOT REASONS.

                             MATTHEW 25:14-30; REVELATIONS 3:1-2.


 As we contemplate the subject of leadership and the life that makes it effective, there are two points I would like to make in this introduction:

1.You need to give serious thought to what you will say when you are asked to explain your life: Reasons or Results? Everybody will give either of the two. The unprofitable servant in the Bible gave reasons while the other people gave results.

One of the signs that a person is developing the leadership life is that he or she offers you results: not reasons why results couldn’t be achieved. Indeed, every Christian must conduct the affairs of his life with the knowledge that someday we will all give account of our walk here on the earth. You need to decide whether you will offer God results like the good servants in Jesus’ parable of the talents or excuses like the unfaithful servant.

2.There are 3 groups in the church, that is, in the body of Christ: Give Me People (these are below average; about 60% of Christians fall into this category), Use Me People (these are average Christians, about 30% fall into this category) and Make Me People (this is the leadership class; only about 10% of Christians fall into this category). God doesn’t use people, He makes people and you must never forget that. The goal of “use me” people is the pursuit of power and not the development of character. Pursue the development of character and not just power.


PRAYER: Lord, I pray for power to produce results and not reasons when life comes with questions and challenges in Jesus’ name. Amen!

On The Marble....

 PURPOSE DRIVEN PRAYER....

Life without purpose is barren indeed
There can’t be a harvest unless you plant seed
There can’t be attainment unless there’s a goal
And man’s but a robot unless there’s a soul.

If we send no ships out, no ships will come in,
And unless there’s a contest, nobody can win.
For games can’t be won unless they are played,
And prayers can’t be answered unless they are prayed.

So whatever is wrong with your life today
You’ll find a solution if you kneel down and pray.
Not just for pleasure, enjoyment and health,
Not just for honors and prestige and wealth.

But pray for a purpose to make life worth living
And pray for the joy of unselfish giving.
For great is your gladness and rich your reward,
When you make your life’s purpose the choice of the Lord.

SPEAK INTO YOUR MARRIAGE

SPEAK INTO YOUR MARRIAGE 

Genesis 219 And out of the ground the Lord God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought them unto Adam to see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam called every living creature, that was the name thereof.20 And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him.22 And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.23 And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.

If you notice in these verses of the book of Genesis chapter 2, you will agree that whatever name Adam calls the animals and birds and even the woman God gave out of his rib as helper to him is actually what God agreed to call them. A bigger picture appear to me here that whatsoever you call your marriage as a man is what God calls it. 

If you call your wife stubborn, so be it. If you call your marriage useless and regrettable, so be it by God. If you call your children different kinds of names, so be it by God.

I can only urge us a man that we always speak the word of life and positive utterance at all times to our wife and children. There is power in our words as a man, God has a special regards for us as the head. If anything is not working in your life, Speak into it and with faith; all will turns out to be ok.

Speak into your marriage, lay your hands on your wife and speak into her life, speak into the lives of your children and see how God turns things around for good.

Shalom.