Genesis 2:22 (kjv): And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.
The common mathematics rule we know is 1+1=2 but in marriage they always say 1+1=1. Hmmm… well but I thought of it that the same basic calculation steps apply to both; in mathematics, 1 (one) means a whole number; a number that can stand alone, a number without a fraction but if just 0.1 (1/10) is deducted/subtracted/taken out of 1, then the whole number becomes fraction or decimal (0.9 or 9/10). The fraction can only become whole again if and only if the exact fraction or decimal taken out of it is added again, and if by chance say 0.11 is now added to 0.9 which now equals 1.01; and not a whole number again.
Now, in the beginning God created Adam as a whole being, endowed with all 'lifes' he needed to succeed in the task assigned to him. He was doing great but something is still missing; an HELPER. From the creation, Adam seems perfect and complete; a whole being in the eyes of the creator but later a rib has to be taken out of him to form another human. I called that a LIFE being taken out of Adam re-branded, re-molded, revitalized, reshaped, restructured, reorganized and revamped to become a new being now serving as an helper to him. So, out of many ‘lifes' Adam has a part was taken out of him reinforced into another being to serve as helper.
Now to my analogy, Adam was a whole being before but now became a fraction after a part has been taken out of him and Eve on the other hand also a fraction of Adam. I can now rephrased the statement as HALF + HALF = ONE (marriage mathematics) or in other words, HALF LIFE + HALF LIFE = ONE LIFE. A man is a half and so a woman; two of them coming together and becoming a whole, man cannot survive alone and so also the woman. They all depend on each other.
What actually brought about this analysis is just about all these marriage flaws, marriage issues, marriage breakages, marriage unrests, marriage whatever that is rampant these days. To me, a man should accept that a rib; which means a life (or lives) is missing in him and there is someone out there that carries that life around and also that he needs to look out there and find the carrier of his life for him to be completed. No wonder the Bibles says whoever finds a wife found a good thing and obtained favour from the Lord. A man that recognizes that he's clueless about managing his finances; spends anyhow, lavish and blows extravagantly but now finds a woman that manages this 'life' for him will always respect that woman. Such a man will never say to her..." What are you good at shef, you're just a useless being, i don't even know why I marry you.....”. And likewise, a woman that knows that the man is just her all in all, carries her burden all the time , always there for her, always provide the shoulder to lean on and always brace her up whenever she falls or fails will never say the same to her husband. Both of them will have mutual respect for each other, they will always care for that special 'life' because they know if anything ever happen to that HALF, then ;they can never be a WHOLE again.
In the nutshell, married couples out there learn from this simple analogy of mine: HALF (MAN) + HALF (WOMAN) = ONE (WHOLE LIFE) and if you should ever maltreat your half, then you can never enjoy that 'life' until you become a WHOLE again. Couples should always identify that life that is missing in him or her and see to it that the space is filled perfectly and then cherish and care for that life God has reinforced and sandwiched into their partner.
To the youth, ensure you identify that life and make it the top search point as you're looking around for that perfect match; other points are always a distraction.
To me, hmmmm.....I've taken my time to identify that missing life in me, now patiently searched and looked with the grace of God for that perfect sincere Sister that actually filled that block making it a WHOLE life again.
Shalom.
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